Collars are one of the hottest props of any BDSM session. In fact, it won’t be exaggerating to say that a BDSM session is not really complete without a collar. The symbol of ownership and surrender, the collar usually graces the neck of the sub in a BDSM relationship. It’s the dom or the master who makes the sub wear it to show his/her ownership. And the sub puts it on to signify that s/he is always under the command of the master. Would you too like to explore the world of BDSM with your partner? It would be a refreshing change from your regular intimate sessions. And if you do, a collar is a must-have here.
The post below shares a brief on BDSM collars, their symbolism and the various styles you may try out.
Symbolism behind BDSM collars
Show of ownership and possession
The most important aspect of a BDSM collar is the symbolism of ownership of the dom of the sub. It shows that the sub is under the complete command and control of the dom/master. In other words, when a sub is bound by a collar, s/he is bound to obey everything the master desires or orders the sub to do.
Besides, the collar also means that the sub is some kind of property of that particular master and nobody else has rights over him or her. It is absolutely necessary to seek the permission of master if you want to interact with a collared sub.
Helps to improve posture
Collars are also great to enhance the posture of the sub during a kink play. A collar sits firmly around the neck of the sub which helps to keep his/her chin up. This way, it becomes easier when the sub has to perform an oral act for the master. For example, if the master desires a blow job, he can kneel down the sub, collar her and make her act to please him down under.
Great for animal play
For those uninitiated, animal play is a major part of BDSM sessions. Also called role play, the sub here has to play the role of an animal while the dom becomes the master of the pet. Dog and cat play are some of the popular versions of animal play in kink acts. During animal play, a collared sub usually moves in all fours around the master and obeys some typical animal acts- like licking, biting etc.- as per the command of the master.
Collars used in animal play are usually inscribed with the name of the animal. It’s to note here when a sub plays the role of an animal, his original name is not used by the master. Rather the dom gives the sub a different name in resemblance to names usually given to pets. And that collar is inscribed with that particular name on its body.
Levels of collars in BDSM relationships
Training Collar
As the name says, this type of collar is used when the sub starts his/her formal training under the dom. The sub has to wear the collar throughout the training period. Once he passes the training period with élan, his/her master will replace the collar with a higher-level collar.
Consideration collar
This collar is the next level of collar just after the sub completes his or her training under the dom. Post training, the sub will be given the choice to decide whether or not s/he would be comfortable to enter into a long-term and serious relationship with the dom. But, it’s to stress here, this collar does not represent long-term relationship with the dom. Instead, it’s more like a transition collar. It represents a phase where the sub is contemplating whether or not s/he would go into long-term commitment with the master.
It’s a very serious phase no doubt as once a sub enters into a long-term contract with a certain master, s/he can’t go to anyone else. S/he will only be allowed to go somebody else if the contract ends or if the master permits.
Protection Collar
This collar is offered to a sub when s/he agrees to get into a long-term contract with the dom. The collar is especially worn when the master takes his sub out to some kink event, such as a sex party, dungeon and so on. A Protection Collar symbolizes that the sub wearing the collar is under the protection of his/her dom. If you want to interact with any such sub, you have to ask the permission of the master first.
Formal Collar
This is the highest level of collar a sub can earn from his/her dom.
A Formal Collar is only conferred on the sub has proved his/her commitment to the master and the dom can finally deem the sub as a long-term partner for BDSM acts. Those who seriously practice BDSM relationships, follow a great “collaring ceremony” while conferring the collar to the sub.
Interestingly, the formal collars do not always look like regular collars. You will find them in various cool designs today, ranging from a wristwatch to a piece of jewelry.
BDSM collars- different styles
BDSM collars are available in a wide range of styles to choose from.
Dog or pet collars
As the name says, these are used for animal plays in kink sessions. You will mostly find them in leather and they usually represent a pet leash. Some of these collars are adorned with metal spikes and studs to add to the glam quotient. However, you will also find dog collars for BDSM plays in nylons. These are delicate and come with bejeweled with ruffles or rhinestones.
T-shirt collar
These collars duly represent the collar part of a t-shirt. T-shirt BDSM collars are usually attached with a leash and ring.
Eternity Collars
These collars bear this unique name for their innovative design. When you fix the collar together, you will find no obvious attachment or clasp. It seems like the collar is just one seamless piece.
So, which one is your pick? All of these can be found at lovegasm.co.